Aug 30, 2011

How to Be a Tomboy

How to Be a Tomboy


 Do you feel confined by the chains of femininity? Are you horrified at the thought of spending more than two seconds in front of a mirror? Not every girl wants to be glamorous, and sometimes she just wants to be one of the guys. Here's how to step outside the box and be a tomboy.



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    Avoid wearing soft and powdery colors like they're the plague. Light pink is allowed. But you don't always have to wear bold, dark colors such as navy blue, forest green, brown, and black. Camo is a good pattern to stick with.

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    Be physically active, especially with sports, and do it earnestly. Don't join a team just to mine the field for potential boyfriends. Throw yourself into the game, get in touch with your inner competitor, and don't be afraid to break a sweat. Try a really cool sport like martial arts. You get a good workout, meet great people and learn something that you can really use.
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    If sports aren't your thing, then try video games.It's relatively active, and with up to four people playing cooperatively, you can make friends and rock out to all kinds of good music. Look for other games that offer competition and cooperation in the same package, so as to be able to work with someone as an equal, or destroy them in competition.
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    Choose clothes that allow you to become physically active at the drop of a hat. Jeans, t-shirts, and trainers are always a good bet. High-heels, skirts, dresses and 'pretty little pink hair clips' are no-nos if you plan on doing anything physical that day. Before you leave the house, ask yourself: "If someone invited me to play football, would I have to turn them down because of the way I'm dressed?" If the answer is yes, consider something else.
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    Get used to hearing the people around you belch and make other unpleasant noises and smells with their bodies. Odds are, you'll spend a lot of time surrounded by testosterone, which doesn't always favor good hygiene and etiquette. However, have some self-respect. Don't do it yourself.
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    Don't be boy crazy. If you want to be like one of the guys, you can't be THAT much into guys. No one's asking you to avoid attraction to the opposite gender! Just don't make it the centerpiece of your focus. There's much more to life than obsessing over guys.
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    Learn how to talk. Don't gush or talk in a really high pitched voice. Find the right volume and pitch, and don't mumble. Make sure you sound confident. Swearing doesn't mean you're a tomboy, either, so don't overdo it. It can sound cheap and fake if overused. You don't have to use "dude" or "man" or "awesome", but if you think it helps you and you're comfortable with it, go ahead. Talk as you normally would, but without squealing and being too dramatic.
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    Start hanging around boys and wearing non-girly clothing.
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    You might even want to shop at the boys' section at times. Nothing too tight or anything that will prevent you from being comfortable. Loose and baggy is the way to go, but you don't have to do it if you don't want to. You shouldn't care so much about how your hair looks, or if your nails are okay or not.
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    You can still be friends with total shopping, lip gloss loving, hip swinging girly girls, and you can sometimes be a girly girl too!
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    The point of a tomboy is to be respected by the opposite sex, and to make clear that you are not a "prize" or sexual object, but one girl to work hard to earn and be respected by.
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    Learn to skateboard or go on the scooter. After school you and your friends can go to the skate park and have skating contests.
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    Appreciate that you are one of the guys and they will accept you more easily than the girly girls that they tease.
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    Observe boys and how they walk. They don't use hands on their hips or swinging hips; they use their shoulders and take huge steps forward.
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    Run a lot. You don't want to get left in the dust when you are racing with a friend. They might get a little surprise when a tomboy passes them.
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    Chances are they will ask if you watch hardcore shows more intended for male audiences. If they ask you, answer. They'll like that.
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    Don't be afraid to get down and dirty, grass stains on your jeans, scuffed up shoes, that's a real tomboy right there. However, if you think that's going too far, that's fine. "Do what's comfortable with you."
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    'Wear some boyish clothes' like un-jeweled jeans or camouflage pants. You could also just wear baggy pants. Cargo shorts or cutoffs are good also. For a shirt you may want to buy some very baggy t-shirts with boyish designs. You might want to wear skateboard shoes or converse. Of course, you can go girly if you wish. "Being a tomboy isn't just about clothes. It's about the attitude towards life, and the respect you wish to get."
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    Joke around a lot.
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    For bathing suits, it's pretty simple. ' A good bathing suit is board shorts, some swim suit underneath, and a rash guard overtop to look more boyish.
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    It helps if you don't get freaked out at small things and try to seem brave even if you don't feel it. You soon will!
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    Try to wear sports bras and tank-tops; they're more comfortable. Again, do what's comfortable with you. If you can't give up your under wire bra, don't.
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    If you have a cellphone, texting is better and use real slang.

Edit Tips

  • Be yourself. Dress the way YOU want to, and don't become a tomboy just because everyone else is.
  • Work out. This doesn't mean that you should go to the gym and lift huge weights everyday, just keep your weight at a healthy level and remember to do your push-ups!
  • Your intentions are important. If your intention is to appear tomboyish but not lose your daintiness, femininity, and cuteness, then you won't be able to have the earnest looseness that makes a tomboy what she is.
  • Always wear your hair in a ponytail or cut it short so it doesn't stick to your head when you sweat, but if you don't want to tie them, make sure you straighten it. Two low ponytails or a plait would be okay, but sort of pushing the limit. Take care of your hair, tough-boys take care of their hair too, so it's alright. Wash your hair as much as needed, brush/comb it everyday, and don't use too many hair products. Don't keep fiddling with your hair though. Bangs are cool, so don't feel like you have to clip them up. Long hair doesn't mean you're girly, either. If you want to get your hair cut, don't get it too short unless it really suits you. Make sure it's styled properly. A layered cut is great, because it makes hair easier to manage if it's thick, and it looks just awesome when you put it in a ponytail. Not girly, either. It looks quite skater-ish.
  • Don't bother with make-up or nail polish unless you feel like it. You don't have to dress up to please someone else, but you don't have to look like road-kill to be tough, either. If makeup is applied, do not overdose on it. Just a little, and not too much to make you seem girly.
  • Don't let girly girls be mean to you... or anyone else, for that matter. Learn to deal with it without screaming, crying or looking stupid. If they don't accept you for who you are, then reconsider if you are friends or not.
  • Go out and enjoy nature. The key is not to be afraid of spiders, bugs, and the like. Or, if there's a girly-girl screaming about the bug in front of her pick it up and move it outside. It really impresses guys to know that you aren't afraid of creepy things, but everything has a right to live.
  • When you have to shop, go to a skate shop or somewhere that sells stuff you like.
  • Never be afraid to let your creative side show.
  • You don't have to like sports. That's part of the stereotype. Video games can be a better alternative.
  • Don't be afraid to gush over boys with your girl friends.
  • Look good sometimes. Don't act extremely like a guy, since that is just being stereotypical.
  • The tomboys I know are girls who don't care about what others think of them. If you're someone who lives to please and get compliments, don't become a tomboy.
  • Being a tomboy is mostly natural. You can shop in girls sections, but make sure to buy jeans or T-shirts, not mini-skirts. You can wear nice clothes on occasion, maybe to a dance or party, but make sure it suits you and doesn't look like you tried too hard to impress someone. The key to being a tomboy is to fit into the lifestyle naturally, not to look like you are begging the guys to hang out with you. Tomboys are just girls who don't like being girly-girls, so that's who you should be.
  • Do not wear dresses, only shorts and a loose tee shirt.
  • Don't wear loud make-up.
  • Don't be on your cellphone 24/7, but having one isn't bad, either.
  • If you are looking for clothes, you don't have to go to some skate shop you find in the mall. If you go shopping at a place like Kohl's, just head straight for the boys department if you prefer to wear boys' clothes. Don't worry if you see a boy there that you know.
  • Lastly and most importantly remember that a tomboy isn't a specific style, but rather a girl removed from the Princess stereotypes pushed by the media. It's about doing what you want and dressing comfortably, which is pretty much how most guys live.

Edit Warnings

  • Don't get so caught up in being a tomboy that you forget to be yourself. You can wear make-up and pretty clothes and still be "one of the guys".
  • Don't try too hard. If you constantly say stuff like "Dude, I hate girly girls" and change very quickly, you'll look like a total poser and nobody will want to hang out with you. Change slowly, and just act how you feel. Besides, if you are comfortable being a tomboy, you won't have any problems with people who want to be girly-girls. Everyone should be who they are, and if you don't like someone who is girly, don't point them out and say you hate them because they're girly.
  • Your parents may get upset, particularly your Mum. If she's really girly and likes hanging out with you, she may be upset you're changing. Don't worry, just explain you're changing but you're still the same person.
  • Just because you're a tomboy doesn't mean that you have to forget your personal hygiene but you don't have to spend hours in the bathroom every morning. Shower at least once a day. Though the boys may smell bad after a game of football, try not to smell that bad. Wear deodorant and keep yourself clean.
  • Never wear anymore of those cute little dresses, it will ruin your tomboy rep.
  • If you've seen boy's jeans, they're a little ripped up, not hugely ripped.
  • This can be a hard lifestyle. You'll have to take girly girls making fun of you. Just ignore it or come up with a witty response.
  • Don't be flat out rude to girly girls, it makes you out to be a jerk.
  • If you are a girly girl changing to a tomboy, you can still keep your old friends.
  • If you are in high school people might assume you are a lesbian. Politely correct them if they are wrong. Explain you just like being a tomboy or lead an athletic lifestyle and aren't into girly things.
  • If you've already been tomboy for a while,some of your friends might forget that you're not just one of the guys. If that's the way you want to be viewed, that's fine, but it can be embarrassing if you're in a public place and they say something. Another thing you can not just skip from tomboy to pretty. That will throw your friends off. They will be a little curious.
  • You can still be friends with lip gloss-loving, pink colored super make-up girly girls as long as you don't become one.