Flirting Tips for Lesbians

Flirting Tips for Lesbians

How does a woman flirt with another woman? That can be tricky, especially if you do not know the sexual orientation of the object of your flirt.

There's nothing like having someone flirt with you to boost your self-esteem. Whether or not you return the attraction, it feels good to know that someone finds you attractive. Flirting is an art. It's a two-way game. You have to be able to read your partner's interest and comfort in the flirtation in order to know how to proceed.

But, if done properly, there is nothing better or more exciting than letting the electricity grow between you two in the beginning stages of a relationship. Flirting can be subtle or overt. I prefer the subtle kind.

Here's some tips for flirting:

•When you're out together, try to sit near her. Notice if she moves closer or farther away. When you're sitting on a couch and your thighs touch, what does she do? Does she let it stay or inch away?

•Look her in the eye when you are talking. Hold the stare for a little longer than you would a normal conversation.

•It may sound corny, but open a door for her to walk through.

•If you're sitting across from each other, gently put your hand on hers. Don't move it away unless she does.

•Tell her she looks nice tonight. Compliment her hair or outfit.

•Find out what makes her laugh. There's nothing like humor to cut the tension and loosen you both up.

•Offer to get her a drink if you're at a party or bar together.

•Touch her hand or shoulder when you hand her a drink.

•Tell her you've been thinking about her.

•Call her just to say hi and see what's she's been doing.

•Send her a little note that says you enjoyed spending time together. An email is okay, hand written and dropped at her door or mailed is better.

Be careful not to over do it. You don't want to seem like a stalker. Look for signs that your flirtation is unwanted. Does she get off the phone quickly when you call? Do you send her long flowery e-mails, only to get one line answers in return? If so, back off and let her come to you.

Good luck and most of all, have fun!

How to Get a Lesbian Girlfriend

Self-acceptance of being an open lesbian creates a higher self-esteem and gives you more power in life. When you're ready to open that door to find a lesbian significant other, there's lots of roads and opportunities for that path.

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   Become comfortable being lesbian.
   Become comfortable being lesbian. Sometimes, when you hide your sexuality, others may think you're not lesbian and won't try to kick up a relationship with you for fear of a let-down. Come out to loved ones you feel comfortable coming out to. The more you are open with your sexuality, the better chance you have of other girls picking up on that and wanting to be with you.
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   Introduce yourself to people.
   Introduce yourself to people. Not just girls you think are attractive, but men, too. They could have connections to single girls. The more outgoing and friendly you are, the more inviting you will be to girls. Keep discussions lightweight and away from yourself to be more appealing.
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   Join an LGBT group in your community.
   Join an LGBT group in your community. You will get to talk to people who are going through some of the same issues you are facing - and you might find a date.
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   Join an online dating service.
   Join an online dating service. Lots of dating sites allow you to search members around you. It's a good feature that you can easily find lesbian girls who live near you. Browse around first to make sure the site has local active members who interest you before you commit to paying a fee.
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   Be yourself. Being someone you're not just to get with someone is a big no-no. If a girl doesn't like who you are naturally, it won't work out in the long run even if you do hook up briefly.
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   Show that you're interested, but avoid being too forward. If you come on too strong, it's a turn-off whether she was interested or not. Smile and show confidence. Be friendly and welcoming, and definitely go talk to her, but don't be cocky, pushy or aggressive.
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   Take your time. Don't be in a rush to get just any girlfriend. You have your whole life to find your soul mate. It's very hard to find Ms. Right when you're dragging around all the time with Ms. Wrong because you made promises too early and didn't give yourself enough time to play the field a little bit. Finding a love that will last forever doesn't always happen in a flash.
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   Ask her out. Don't wait for what feels like eternity for her to ask. She could be a bit shyer and nervous about asking you out, and taking that giant step can make her yours.
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Edit Tips

• Smile a lot! Give a gay girl a knowing "Hey, I'm a lesbian, too!" smile.
• Show off your pride by wearing rainbow jewelry. If gay girls don't know you're a lesbian, they won't hit on you.
• Act confident, but not cocky.
• Don't try too hard, the girls will see if you are comfortable in your own skin.
• Get to know other LGBT people. Even if you're not interested in them romantically, they can be good contacts to other people, and having a gay support network of friends will help you feel comfortable with yourself!

Edit Warnings

• People may be prejudiced against you once you get a girlfriend. Remember to take pride in yourself.
• Ignore homophobic comments which make you uncomfortable. Those people are prejudiced who disagree with your sexuality and may be trying to bully you.
• Watch out for gossiping friends. If you tell them you are a lesbian, be aware they may tell the whole school. It is better if you "out" yourself when you are comfortable.

How to Accept That You Are Gay

If you feel very attracted to members of the same sex, or both sexes, but need to feel like you have accepted it within yourself, here is a guide to help you. You have found out your sexual orientation, and you are perfectly normal. Accepting who you are - and being proud of who you are - is the next step on the road to coming out of the closet, and eventually to having a successful gay or lesbian relationship. Some people have difficulty in accepting their sexual orientation, either because of personal or societal discomfort or pressure. Most people in the LGBT community know from experience that accepting your sexuality will lead to your becoming a happier, more open person.

In this guide, the term gay has been used to include all forms of homosexuality and bisexuality, whether that be people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transsexual or pansexual.

Edit Steps

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   Know if you are Gay. Sometimes people question their sexuality. There are many degrees of sexual orientation, and if you find you don't fit easily into one category, perhaps you are bisexual. Don't allow yourself to be labeled until, or unless, you are ready and willing to be. If you feel that you don't fit, or you can't understand why you aren't like other people in your life because you are different, remember that you are you, and not anyone else; and that being yourself and accepting yourself for the person that you are is something to be immensely proud of.
   
   
   
   
   

   Know if you are Gay.
   
   
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   Remember that you didn't choose to be attracted to members of the same sex, and that attempts to change your orientation are usually painful and pointless in the end.^[1] When talking with heterosexual friends or family members, it's sometimes tough to help them understand this, because they have no frame of reference for your experience. Try to encourage others to see your sexual orientation in the same way as they see your eye colour - it is something you were born with and did not choose. It is something that is simply a part of your being, and not something you can change. There isn't any need to - being gay is just another way of being, and there is nothing wrong with it at all, neither is there anything wrong with you for being gay.
   
   Some people in the world believe that your sexual orientation is a choice. If this is true for you, especially if you feel attracted to both genders, you might want to evaluate your choices. Leading a gay lifestyle can be a challenging choice in many societies throughout the globe. If you feel that you made a choice, you should feel comfortable with that choice. Everyone has their own battles and choices to make, and the norms of societies may not necessarily be normal for you. If you do feel that you want to make the choice to accept your sexuality, it would be best to find friends and loved ones to support you, but do not feel - or let yourself be - pressured into believing that you should "change your ways". If anyone tries to force an opinion on you that you do not agree with, such that your desires themselves are unnatural, sinful or symptoms of a mental disorder, look elsewhere for support. There is no evidence that "helping homosexuals to become heterosexual" is possible, and treatments to "change" sexual orientation that were common in the 1960s and 1970s were very damaging to those patients who underwent them and affected no change in their sexual orientation.^[2]
   
   Understand the psychology involved, as much as possible, and recognize that many people believe that sexual choice is an aspect of maturity; is it possible that the other sex still just has "cooties" to you, in a sense?^[3]
   
   
   
   
   

   Remember that you didn't choose to be attracted to members of the same sex, and that attempts to change your orientation are usually painful and pointless in the end.
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   Develop and express your individuality - if your preferred way of doing something strays from the mainstream, whatever it may be, then be proud of it - you are the one and only you. Understand that a person who is gay is no different from any other person. Like everyone else, gay people have dreams and goals, and want companionship and love just like anyone else you know. Strive every day to be the best person you can be, and remind yourself of the positive qualities and attributes that make you uniquely who you are.
   
   
   
   
   

   Develop and express your individuality - if your preferred way of doing something strays from the mainstream, whatever it may be, then be proud of it - you are the one and only you.
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   Tell yourself that for people to accept you, first you must accept yourself. If you can't accept your sexual orientation and feel comfortable and confident in your own skin, then other people find it harder to accept you fully. It's your right to love; no one has the right to tell you otherwise. Tell yourself: "I am a person with feelings and intellect and a life, just like everyone else. I am unique and individual, and no one has the right to choose my life for me. The fact that I am gay is just another facet of who I am, just as being creative, or optimistic, or having brown eyes is. I may not be like many of my friends, but I choose to live my life authentically and happily. It's my life, and I choose to be happy".
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   Remember that you are not alone. There are many, many gay people in all sorts of communities, and there are many people there for you when you need support. There may be agencies, groups, advisers, family members and friends that you can turn to, even if it is just someone to inform of your feelings. Find a group or a hangout where you feel comfortable, and where there will be other gay people to talk with. Make some new friends, and by doing so, you will establish a new network of supportive and encouraging people around yourself.
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   Show people who you are. Coming out of the closet is the boldest step in accepting your sexual orientation, but now that you are able to live "out", it does not mean that you have to change who you are or what you like. Don't go trying to change yourself or wishing that you were like the other people in your life to cater to the comfort levels of others - there are over 6,500 million of us, and you can't please everyone - and those who care about you will still love you for who you are. If someone can't accept the one small fact of who you are that is your sexuality, and can't still respect you for the person that you are, then they aren't worth your time or letting it bother you, because it's not your fault that the person can't accept it.
   
   
   
   
   

   Show people who you are.
   
   

Edit Tips

• Be selective. The entire world does not need to know about your sexual orientation. It is not necessary to broadcast who you are, and no one should make you, if you find that telling everyone makes you uncomfortable. Know that, while you want and deserve to live an authentic life, it may not be a good idea to expose yourself to narrow-minded people who may offend you.
• Don't come out to a particular person if it doesn't feel right to you. This is a good rule to follow in general - there could be many reasons why, but if it doesn't "feel right" then it is probably not the right time to come out to that person. The time to tell them may be later, or never. What is most important is that you come out to yourself. Once you are at ease with your own sexual orientation and have a healthy self-image, the when and how of coming out often fall into place naturally.
• Don't worry about what others think; what is important is that you are true to yourself and considerate of others - that doesn't mean you need to cater to the sensibilities of others. If a friend or a member of your family is having trouble coming to terms with your orientation, you may have to give them time and be patient, or in the long term face the end of that friendship.
• If you are in a relationship, refrain from using the word "room-mate" or words to that effect to describe your partner. And don't let your loved ones get away with that, either - if you allow them to pretend by introducing your partner as your "friend" or "room-mate," then you're allowing them to put a mask on you and your partner, both. Don't get nasty about it, just correct them gently, for example:
  
  
  • "Well, yes we do live together. Auntie Joan, David is my partner" or "Auntie Joan, I noticed that Jo was introducing you to my girlfriend, Andrea. We dated for a couple of months before moving in together, and we've been together about a year now. I'm so glad you finally get to meet her... Andi, come here, sweetie, and meet my Aunt Joan".
    
    Once your family get the idea that you aren't about to sit back and let them believe that you and David are "just room-mates", or that you and Andi are "just really good friends", they will stop attempting to put a mask on your relationship and be more open, too.
• Remember that being gay does not require you to conform to typical gay stereotypes. Most people who are gay are indistinguishable from those that aren't, share the same interests, goals and dreams for their lives. Being a homosexual person does not necessarily make you any less masculine or feminine, and there is no need or pressure to conform to stereotypes that don't feel right to you - because you are who you are.
• Transsexuals can also be gay. There are plenty of FTMs who are gay, who are into other guys and same goes for MTFs, MTFs who are into other girls. Gender and sexuality are not the same thing. It shows that being gay does not make one "less of a wo/man"

Edit Warnings

• Use good judgement. Sadly, not everyone in the world is a modern, accepting person. Don't broadcast this information to your entire community if you live in a small town or an area where LGBT persons are less likely to be accepted and where you are likely to be harmed physically or emotionally.
• If it is very likely that your coming out will have a bad outcome, then don't. As long as you know who you are, that's plenty for the short term. In the end, your sexual orientation is your business. Eventually, people may figure it out, and you will need to decide whether to stay in that situation or move on to a place that is more accepting.
• If you are still being supported by parents whom you are quite sure would disown you for being gay, it may be prudent to wait to tell them until you are independent. It may be vital for your survival to hold off on coming out until, for example, you have graduated high school or college, or you have moved into a place of your own.
• You may regret the acceptance of your orientation in the future, especially if you're in a part of the world where the homosexual, bisexual and transgender communities are prosecuted by a specific culture. You may have a choice in changing your lifestyle; that is, perhaps you feel you need to live under the guise of being heterosexual for your own safety, and perhaps even your own personal happiness. It is not always easy to remain accepting of your orientation depending on where you live, and the views of the people who are most important to you. There are non-profit organizations that exists to both support you in your acceptance, and also in case you would want to try and lead a heterosexual lifestyle, although you can never change your orientation. Although, it is important to note that the American Psychological Association has declared that groups claiming to cure homosexuality are dangerous and unhealthy. It is very mentally and physically unhealthy to suppress your feelings and your true self. It is up to you to decide what's best for your life.

How to Find the Right Lesbian Partner

Despite the stereotype that lesbians move in together by the second date, lesbians date just as heterosexual people do. If you are newly out of the closet, be forewarned that being gay does not make the process of dating any easier. While some people are lucky enough to meet Ms. Right right away, for most people meeting someone compatible takes a lot of time and effort. It sometimes takes a lot of bad dates to get to the good ones, and it takes a lot of dating to get to a satisfying relationship. However, there are a few things you can do to make the search for your dream woman easier.

1. Look for women in places that would attract the type of woman you want to meet. It may sound like common sense, but if you do not enjoy drinking or dancing, you probably will not meet a compatible mate in a nightclub or bar. If you are shy about meeting people, or there is not a large lesbian community in your area, you might want to join a club or take a class in something that interests you, preferably one geared toward women.
   
   
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   Get involved in your area's a gay/lesbian community. There may well be a LGBT group, club or organisation usually offer various classes and activities in your area. Pick one or a few that interest you and join in. By already knowing most of the women you will meet there are Lesbians, you will take some of the frustration and guess-work out of trying to meet someone. Plus, if you do meet someone through a class or activity there, you will already have something in common with her to talk about and do together, and to build on common ground.
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   Get involved in online gay/lesbian communities.
   Get involved in online gay/lesbian communities. The Internet is full of lesbian forums, message boards, discussion groups and blogs. Some are location-specific while others are of a more global nature. Although it is preferable to find an online group that serves your city or nearby towns, many global groups might have members from your area. You can find local LGBT groups where you can meet other lesbians with interests like yours.
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   Join an online dating service. But before you do, make sure the dating site has local lesbian members. Many online dating sites serve the lesbian community but will not have many current members who live near you. Always browse around first to make sure the site has local active members who interest you before you commit to paying a fee for any online dating service. LesbianDatingCafe offers advanced search features for searching lesbian members near you.
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   Be open to blind dating.
   Be open to blind dating. Although the very concept of blind dating is a turn-off to many people, keeping your options open might just allow you to meet your ideal partner. If a friend offers to set you up with someone, at least consider it before you say no. Ask a few questions about the woman, and if she sounds compatible, give it a try. If you are uncomfortable at the thought of sitting through a long date with someone you might not click with, meet for coffee. If the two of you connect, you can always make a dinner date for another night.
   
   
   • To well-intentioned friends: consider simply inviting the two women you'd like to "fix up" to a party or function. Say a few well-placed words to each about the other, and then let things take their natural course - no "set-up", no worries. Also, later on, you can ask each privately if they'd be interested in being set up on a date with the other - no longer a blind date. Try not to assume that they will hit it off together because they are both lesbians.
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   Befriend other lesbians.
   Befriend other lesbians. Making friends with other lesbians, including lesbian couples, can be one of the best ways to better your chances of meeting someone. By broadening your social network to include other lesbians who have common interests, you will be connecting with people who like to do the things you do and maybe even share the same goals and views you do. A new friend might have a friend who would like to meet you, or, you just may turn a new friendship into a budding relationship. Try not to get discouraged.
   
   

Edit Tips

• Prepare yourself for the process before you get started.
• Be very honest with yourself. Take some time to make a list of your best qualities and personality traits. Examine your true interests.
• If it were easy to meet the perfect person, there would not be so many single people eager to enroll in online dating services. Gay or straight, finding that one person you want to commit to a relationship with takes time and patience. Stay committed to the search, and remember all you have to offer. Ms. Right might be just around the corner, or she might live in the next town, but you will never find her if you give up.
• Date for a while - don't move in on the second date. Rather than going out a few times and then picking out a china pattern together, try to resolve that you will date for at least 6 months before changing any living arrangements. This way, if you find you need couples counseling before the end of the trial period, you can be pretty sure you haven't met your perfect match. Take your time - it's a lifetime of misery, of apathy, or of bliss - make sure you take the time to choose right.
• If you just got out of a bad relationship and havent had much luck getting a new girl friend, you shouldn't worrie. It takes a little while to get back on your feet. Don't stop trying!

Edit Warnings

• Do not advertise your shortcomings or lie to mask things you are not proud of. Do not say you are a workaholic who does not really have time for a relationship but hopes to meet someone anyway - either commit or forget about it. If you do not want to say you are a smoker, then leave it off your list completely.
• Dishonesty will only interfere with the process of meeting someone truly compatible for a lasting relationship.
• Do not get involved with someone you think you can "change". She won't appreciate the fact that it was her potential, and not her, that you were interested in. Either accept her as she is now or leave her alone.

How To Write a Lesbian Love Letter

How To Write a Lesbian Love Letter

Sexy Fridays: How to Write a Lesbian Love Letter

Why would you write a love letter to your sweetie instead of just texting her or telling her you love her on the phone? Writing is tactile. As you put pen to paper, you're putting a piece of yourself down, where she can pick it up and hold it. You're giving her something she can keep and cherish. Something she can put in a box or a drawer and take out and touch from time to time. Especially if you live far apart or are going away, writing a love letter is a great way to remind her of how you feel about her when you're not around.



But even if you live together, surprise her with a hand written note under her pillow, with breakfast in bed or slipped into her briefcase as she heads out the door for work. Not sure where to start? Here are some tips for writing a lesbian love letter.

How To Write a Lesbian Love Letter


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Writing a love letter can be one of the most romantic things you do. Follow these steps to write a romantic love letter to your lesbian partner.

Difficulty: Average

Time Required: Varies

Here's How:

1.Keep notes. Before you even put pen to paper, think about the feeling you want to express to your lover. Jot down ideas when they come to you of specific things you want to mention. Take a few days to just ponder her.

2.Be descriptive. Think of a specific instance and recall how you were feeling. Tell her that in your own words. "The first time I saw you across the room, I couldn't speak. I forgot where I was in the story I was telling and all I could do was follow you with my eyes all night."



3.Get creative. While saying "I Love You" is nice, find a unique way to say exactly how you feel. Try to avoid cliches like butterflies in your stomach and "the world stopped when I saw you."



4.Get Personal. What is it you love about her? What are her best qualities? Tell her.



5.Direct it at her. It's good to say how you feel, but don't forget to tell her about her. Describe the thing about her that drives you crazy, the way her eyes light up a room or the great sense of humor she has. Again be specific. "Your chicken parmesan is the best in all of Kansas," or "The way you dance is sexier than Shakira."



6.Get Sexy. Without getting too graphic. Tell her what it is that is attractive to you. Her hair. Her eyes. The way she fills out a pair of jeans.



7.Add poetry. Try your hand at writing her a simple verse. If you're not a poet yourself, quote from another poet or a song that makes you think of her.



8.Write from your heart. Don't worry so much about if you get it perfect. Just make sure it's sincere.



9.Fess up. If the reason you're writing this letter is because you messed up and are trying to win back her graces, be sure to own your mistakes and promise not to take her for granted again.



10.Love her! Don't forget to tell her you love her.



11.Add a personal touch. Decorate it with photos of the two of you together or images from magazines that remind you of her.



Tips:

1.Write it out ahead of time on scrap paper. Scratch out, write and re-write until you have it perfect.

2.Don't email it. Hand write it on fancy paper or a card and add a touch of your cologne if you wear it.

3.Send it in the mail. There's something special about receiving a personal letter in the mail these days.

4.Offer to read it out loud to her after she receives it.

5.Don't get too heavy, especially if you haven't been dating all that long. You want it to sound thoughtful, not like a stalker.

What You Need:

•Pen

•Nice paper

•Her address

Dating Women

Dating Women

Although there are no sure-fire ways to tell, here are some way to guess if a woman is interested in you, especially for bisexual and lesbian women.

Difficulty: Hard

Time Required: N/A

Here's How:

1.She Tries to Make Eye Contact

Does she go out of her way to try and catch your eye? Do you catch her looking at you when you glance her way? These are signs that she's intrigued, but it may or may not have anything to do with a romantic interest. Pay attention to the context. These clues are a lot more telling at a lesbian bar then in the workplace.

2.She Makes a Point of Sitting Near You

At work she sits next to you in staff meetings. In a group of friends she'll take the seat right next to you or right across from you.

3.She Goes Out of Her Way to Engage with You

Does she always come by your cubicle at work to check in about a project that could easily be talked about via email? Does she show up at your softball games, at the club where you bartend or hang around outside your classroom when her next class is far away? These are all signs she could be into you. Then again, it could be your co-worker, boss or classmate.

4.She laughs at your jokes

Especially if they're not funny.

5.She touches you.

Does she touch your hand when she asks to see your ring? Are there moments when touching is not called for, but she does anyway, like sitting close on a couch or giving your shoulder a squeeze when you pass by her.

6.She compliments you.

If she says you have pretty eyes or a nice smile, she's probably flirting with you. If she compliments your shirt, hair or shoes, she could just like them.

7.She jokes around with you.

Humor is a great ice breaker. If she likes you, she may tease you, joke with you or flirt with you.

8.Your intuition is tell you so.

Don't discount the power of your intuition. Often the energy between two people is palpable. Feel for it, but you can never be sure if one-sided.

9.She tells you.

This is only sure fire way to find out if someone is into you. Either that or she tries to kiss you.

Tips:

1.Warning: If she is your personal trainer or therapist, these things are part of her job (Well, obviously not the kissing...) She is NOT interested in you!

2.Pay attention

Is she acting this way just toward you, or is she a touchy, flirty person in general.

3.Have good boundaries.

If this is a co-worker and you're interested in finding out more, invite her to hang out outside of work. Hitting on someone at work is highly inappropriate and may get you fired.

4.Use Caution

All of these things may add up to her liking you, but don't do anything stupid or rash. Take it slow and get to know her before you make a fool of yourself.

5.Find out if she is gay or bi.

She may not know yet if she is lesbian or bi, but you can start by coming out to her and seeing how she responds. Here are some suggestions of ways to bring up the topic.

Flirting Tips for Lesbians

Flirting Tips for Lesbians

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Let’s take a look at these myths about lesbians and shine some light on the facts.

People have preconceived notions about who lesbians are, what lesbians look like, who lesbians are attracted to and who lesbians want to be. Let’s take a look at these myths about lesbians and shine some light on the facts.

1. All Lesbians Hate Men Fact: Just because lesbians are sexually and emotionally attracted to women, does not mean they hate or even dislike men. In fact, many lesbians love men.

2. Lesbians (especially butch lesbians) want to be men Fact: Lesbians who’s appearances are more androgynous or masculine do so because that is how they feel comfortable. The fact is, there is a diversity of gender expression among all women (and men) no matter what their sexual orientation. People who want to change their sex are called transsexual. 3. You Can’t Know if You’re a Lesbian Unless You Sleep with a Woman Fact: Just as heterosexual people can know they are straight without ever having sex, lesbians too can know they are attracted to women without ever having to sleep with one. Coming out is a process and there is not “quick” way to figure out if you are indeed a lesbian or not.
4. Lesbians are attracted to all women Fact: Just because someone is a lesbian does not mean she’s going to hit on you or be attracted to you.

5. Being a Lesbian is a choice and can be changed Fact: More and more studies are discovering evidence that sexual orientation is not something that one chooses, rather it is an inborn trait, found not only in humans, but in most animals species. Contrary to what the religious right preaches, counseling to “make someone straight” just doesn’t work.

6. Lesbian Relationships are all about sex Fact: Sure lesbians have sex, but like heterosexual relationships, sex is not all there is to lesbian relationships. Lesbians connect with each other on an emotional and spiritual level and if they’re lucky, have great sex too. Like straight people, lesbians create families and have children (or choose not to.)

7. Lesbians just haven’t met the right man yet Fact: Many lesbians haven’t met the right woman yet, but meeting a man has nothing to do with it.

8. You Can Tell a Lesbian by how she looks Fact: Lesbians and gay men claim to have something called “gaydar”, which is really just an intuition about whether or not someone is gay. Gaydar isn’t right all of the time and since many people still live in the closet, there’s no way to tell for sure if someone is a lesbian. Unless she tells you, of course.

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صراحة حبيت احط هالموضوع لأن كثير منا سنغل و يحتار لما يبي يحصل له بنوتة او بوية يحبها و تحبه تهتم به و هو بعد لأن كللللللللللللنا محتاجين ان نكون مشبكين مهما كانت علاقتنا السابقة مؤلمة او جارحة و نظل احنا البويات مالنا غنى عن البنات و يظلوووون اهمة فديييييييت روحهم و قلبهم مالهم غنى عنا
فحبيت احط هالموضوع للسنغل بس لأن طبعا ما نحب الخيانة و نكره الخاينين و الخاينات خصوصن اللي ذاق طعم الخيانة يعرف مدى الجرح
فتفضلو كتبو شنو المواصفات اللي تبونه بحبيبتكم
و كتبو تفاصيل بسيطة عن نفسكم
مثل كتبو

المطلوب
العمر
الديرة ( البلد )
الستايل
الهوايات
الصفات العامة
تعاملها معاج
و براحتكم فديتكم
و اتمنى يفيد هالموضوع السنغل

How To Talk About Being Lesbian ?!▬

How To Talk About Being Lesbian ?!▬


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◘ Hi there :) , i know this is a very hard topic...it's a hard thing to talk with your friends about being lesbian....and i'm not talking about saying this to your crush only...but with all your friends...so these are some ideas that might help all of us , i hope you like it :D
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1- Bring the subject up casually:
Start generically. Ask, do you have a crush on anyone? Or who do you think is cute? You can ask about people you know or celebrities.
2- Bring up the issue:
Ask what they think of gay marriage, gays in the military or Gay/Straight Alliances in the schools. This is a good way to test the waters to see if they are homophobic or not.
3- Let them know how you feel :
If someone tells a gay joke, be sure to say you don't think that's funny. If someone calls someone else a 'fag' or says something mean about gay people, be sure to stand up for them.
4- Use a Celebrity:
Do you watch Queer as Folk or The L Word? Talk about the show and see how your friend responds. It seems like the tabloids are always talking about some famous girl kissing another girl. Ask your friend if she has ever, or would she consider kissing another girl.
5- Use another friend:
Is there some one in your school or circle of friends who is gay, lesbian or bisexual? Mention that person's name and see how your friend reacts.
6- Go for it! :
Depending on how the above steps go, you may decide to take the plunge and ask your big question, "Are you gay?" or drop the hint that you've been thinking about other girls.
7- Breathe :
Discussing sexual orientation is one of the most stressful things a person can do. Be sure you're ready to have the conversation before you start it.

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new study shows that lesbian are more likely to seek out mental health and addiction services) what you think about that? is it true? here's the link http://lesbianlife.about.com/b/2009/08/17/lesbians-more-likely-to-receive-counseling.htm The study had a few theories as to why gays and lesbians might seek out therapy more often than straights. there might be other reasons as well, like the stress of living in a culture that doesn't always accept you. Living daily with discrimination, violence and other stressful events can make gays and lesbians feel isolated and vulnerable and need someone to process it with. Some might seek therapy because they view their sexual orientation as a mental health problem." okay this study got my attention cuz thats what i really noticed in the lesbians i know they are moody and got depressed often so blue okay that what i think i don't why I think the study is accurately right.. lesbians suffer form ordinary ppl's troubles plus their own, at least there they can seek mental help, someone to talk to but in the middle east some of us cant even whisper it to themselves.

new study shows that lesbian are more likely to seek out mental health and addiction services)

what you think about that?

is it true?

here's the link

http://lesbianlife.about.com/b/2009/08/17/lesbians-more-likely-to-receive-counseling.htm

The study had a few theories as to why gays and lesbians might seek out therapy more often than straights.

there might be other reasons as well, like the stress of living in a culture that doesn't always accept you. Living daily with discrimination, violence and other stressful events can make gays and lesbians feel isolated and vulnerable and need someone to process it with. Some might seek therapy because they view their sexual orientation as a mental health problem."

okay this study got my attention cuz thats what i really noticed in the lesbians i know they are moody and got depressed often so blue

okay that what i think i don't why

I think the study is accurately right.. lesbians suffer form ordinary ppl's troubles plus their own, at least there they can seek mental help, someone to talk to but in the middle east some of us cant even whisper it to themselves.

Am I Too Young to Know I'm a Lesbian?

Am I Too Young to Know I'm a Lesbian?

Question: Am I Too Young to Know I'm a Lesbian?

A common question from girls who are questioning their sexual orientation is, "Am I too young to know I'm a lesbian?" In general the answer is, no.








Answer:



A lot of girls question their sexual orientation. If you are attracted to other girls, it's common to wonder if you are a lesbian, bisexual or "going through a stage."
But that doesn't mean that a teen is "too young" to be certain that she is a lesbian. Plenty of people are know that they are lesbians from very early in childhood, and it can be frustrating to be told that you are mistaken about such a core part of who you are.
Of course, others women only realize they are gay in their teens or twenties, or even later. It's also common to feel that your sexual orientation shifts over time.
If you are trying to figuring out your sexual orientation, you can ask yourself some questions like:

Who do you usually have crushes on? Is it mainly other girls?
Do you imagine relationships with girls?
If you dated or had a sexual experience with a guy, how did it make you feel?
If you dated or had a sexual experience with a girl, how did it make you feel?
The answers can help you get a clearer sense of what you are feeling, but don't worry if you still have questions. That's perfectly normal.
Whether you are absolutely certain that you are a lesbian, or still trying to figure it out is probably less related to how old you are, and more related to various individual factors. But no matter how long it takes to answer that question, rest assured you are the best person to do the answering, whatever your age.

What Makes Someone a Lesbian?

What Makes Someone a Lesbian?

Question: What Makes Someone a Lesbian?

There are no definite conclusions as to what makes a woman a lesbian. But there are a lot of different ideas about the causes of sexual orientation, some of which come from lesbians themselves.




Answer:

If someone were to ask you why you are the sexual orientation you are, what would you say? Recently, a lesbian dating site asked its members just that question. Though this was an informal survey, made up of a self-selected group of people, the results are telling.

"More than 60% believe they were born lesbian or bi-sexual and only 6% attribute their sexuality to upbringing or a life event. Seven percent said their sexuality was a conscious choice. A fifth of respondents opted for a middle ground, attributing their sexuality to a combination of nature, nurture and choice."
This was not a scientifically vetted study. But it is still an interesting contribution to our understanding of woman and sexual orientation. And a needed one. Most studies on sexual orientation have been done on men and then applied to women. So it is always good to see more female specific information on this topic.
There are many different components that go into making people gay, lesbian, heterosexual or bi.
There is growing evidence that sexual orientation must be due to a combination of factors as it is too complex to simply be the product of a single factor like a gene, or a past experince, or how someone was raised. For example, all you need to do to refute the idea that parenting style determines sexual orientation is to point out that the majority of GLB people have straight parents!
The bottom line is, whatever the cause, you can't "turn" someone into a lesbian and you can't change your sexual orientation. We are who we are, and hopefully, that is something we will be able to feel comfortable with and appreciate.

Desperate Housewives - Lesbian Kissing Scene Katherine(Dana Delaney) & Robin (Julie Benz)

i saw this yesterday and god i love the show really getting hotter and damn the new actress is hot love her

Desperate Housewives - Lesbian Kissing Scene Katherine(Dana Delaney) & Robin (Julie Benz)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sgmie274aAA

Lesbian Love is beautiful (Arabic Version)

wow i just saw this vid and i loved it full of passion wanna share it with u guys

Lesbian Love is beautiful (Arabic Version)

who doesnt love kissing :P

10 most popular symbols of lesbians

10 most popular symbols of lesbians

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Myths and the truth about lesbians

Myths and the truth about lesbians

Unfortunately we often have to face misunderstanding and sometimes even aggression from heterosexual part of humankind. This lack of understanding often brings about most absurd rumors - heterosexuals think, that all of us, lesbians, are manlike, dissolute, childless and mentally ill defective women. No doubt heterosexuals will take a great deal of time to realize that we, lesbians are nice, kind, tender and loving. Now our main goal is to dispel 10 myths about lesbians in order to realize their absurdity and to be able to explain everything to those who know nothing about homosexuality and lesbians in particular.
Myth 1: If being young you were seduced by a woman, than you will certainly become a lesbian.

Facts: all studies confirm that sexual orientation is being formed during the first year of a person's life, therefore no matter by whom you were seduced being a teen, this by no means can influence your preferences in future. A wide ranging study carried out in Netherlands has destroyed this myth forever.

Myth 2: Heterosexual love is the only possible and admissible as it results in children

Facts - No doubt, only sexual relationships between a man and a woman result in childbirth, but this is not an evidence proving that homosexual, and in particular lesbian love is less significant. Very often relationships between two heterosexuals are not oriented exclusively to childbirth, and nevertheless they are full of tenderness, intimacy, willingness to please each other, to give to each other pleasure. Why does it seem unnatural that two persons of the same gender strive for the same feelings?

Myth 3: Lesbians hate men

Facts.

To love a woman does not mean to hate men. Being in love is a positive emotional state. Love between women cannot negatively influence a woman's attitude towards the world and to the opposite sex in particular. However men, sometimes being too selfish and arrogant cannot recognize that a woman can have so great feelings which are by no means related to them.
Myth 4: Lesbians have an enormous sex drive, they almost attack women they like in public places

Facts: There is no study which proves the fact that sex drive of lesbians and their sexual behavior is displayed more evidently than in heterosexuals. Their behavior towards persons they like and want does not differ from behavior of heterosexuals.
Myth 5: Lesbians adopt children in order to make them lesbians or gays

Facts. Various studies concerning this matter show that a person cannot be made by force a homosexual. According to these logics all people would be heterosexuals if family and education could influence sexual orientation.
Myth 6: There would be more lesbians and gays if the society stops openly speaking about its tolerant attitude towards homosexuality.

Facts: The number of homosexuals is not going to increase, no matter whether it would be approved by the society or not. On the contrary, those who hide their feelings will have a chance to feel free.
Myth 7: All lesbians are manlike, and all gays behave like women. Homosexual relationships always imply role play - one partner plays a man, whereas the other plays a woman.

Facts: - Homosexual (and lesbian in particular) relationships vary. Sometimes they imply role play, sometimes they do not. There is nothing compulsory in homosexual relationships.
Myth 8: Lesbians cannot have children.

Facts:They can and they have. Some of them manage to have kids before they realize their sexual orientation. Others give birth to children with partners of the opposite sex, very often these partners are homosexuals as well. There are many women who have heterosexual relationships, but consider themselves to be lesbians. They cannot come out for various reasons - job, relatives, friendsSome of them have lovers of the same sex, whereas others do not come out until the end of their lives.
Myth 9: Homosexuality is treatable

Facts: Homosexuality cannot be treated. There was not a case when psychiatric or medicament treatment could be effective against homosexuality. Sexual, sensual, emotional feelings cannot be changed by force.
Myth 10: Homosexuality is unnatural

Facts:Homosexuality always existed - in any culture and at all times. Some societies damned it, others were tolerant toward this phenomenon - but it always existed. Homosexual behavior is characteristic of animals as well. Sexual behavior in nature is various, and it does not comply with human ideology and ideals.

10 FAQ about lesbians

10 FAQ about lesbians

1. Who are the lesbians?Tribadism begins with feelings. At first you feel the love to the other woman and then you can also feel sexual desire. You can fell in love and express your feelings fully while having sex with a woman. You can be considered a lesbian or female homosexual, if you arouse being with a woman, or thinking of her. But it doesnt mean that you hate men or they dont exist in your life. You could have sex experience with a man, and they may take part in your sexual fantasies.
2. Can any woman be a lesbian?

Not each of women is a lesbian. But many of them have homosexual fantasies. The problem is that not every woman can confess that she is an unusual one. Especially those who are married are usually afraid of others reaction. This type of lesbians is called potential homosexuals. And only few choose not to hide and live as they want. So any woman in your circle can be lesbian: your neighbor, your doctor, your sister, daughter or teacher.
3. How many lesbians are in our society nowadays?

According to investigations, one or two women of 20 are lesbians. About 50% of interrogated women declared that they had homosexual experience and lesbian feelings. If all women had the liberty of choice, there would be much more lesbians. But the most societies and cultures accept only heterosexuality, but the homosexuality is considered to be something immoral and unnatural. They dont take in consideration that this can make many people suffer.
4. Where can we meet lesbians?

We can meet them there and everywhere, in any culture and society all over the world. They existed in all times in the course of human history. Some people believe that its easier to be a lesbian in developed countries, and the possibility to meet a person of homosexual orientation is much higher there. But its not quite so. The society can influence the way the lesbians are accepted by people, it can forbid their public activities, but it cant influence true feelings. Feelings cant be killed by ideology. Thanks to the growing homosexual activity in Internet, and development of international lesbian communities we can easily find the information we need, as well as to get acquainted with people from different countries and communicate with like-minded persons.
5. What can lesbian orientation cause?

Can it be treated? Some lesbians believe that theyve been homosexual since they were born. The others say that it was their own choice and they did it being adults. There are many reasons to be both homosexual and heterosexual. For the long time the homosexuality used to be considered a disease. But neither injections nor any other treatment gave a positive result. Women were harmonized and even isolated in special rehabilitation centers. It was proved that the homosexuality is not an illness. Any kind of treatment only hurts mentality.
6. Where could the lesbians meet each other?

Actually, you could easily meet them everywhere. Its really difficult to identify whether the certain person is the lesbian or not according to her appearance. In some cultures and subcultures lesbians wear different special symbols to demonstrate their homosexuality and to recognize each other. Sometimes the lesbians put on male clothes or use variety of special accessories. The pink triangle has been chosen as a symbol of homosexuality during the Second World War. The homosexual prisoners had to wear these on their clothes. Nowadays lesbians wear this triangle as a symbol of pride. One can find out with sureness that the person is homosexual only when she has declared it by herself. Some lesbians date secretly in an underhand way. They date in their friends houses, forming small social groups. They can also communicate when visiting some parties organized by special organization. But you can meet them in the streets, in supermarkets, in the university and any other public place as well.
7. Can the lesbians get married and have children?

In Germany, Norway, Sweden and Holland homosexual couples can get married and register officially their marriages the way heterosexuals do it. In USA some of the companies and city administrations grant to them the same medical and pensionary rights as to those naturals, who got married in church, synagogue or Roman-Catholic church. In some countries gays and lesbians have their own churches and synagogues where they can get married. Unfortunately these marriages dont have a legal status. However, the lesbians fight for their rights by opening legal private organizations. Such kind of organizations occupies with property, inheritance and the most important thing they do is settling the matter of having children.
8. How do the lesbians live together and love each other?

The lifestyle of naturals diverges much. So does the lesbian one. Some of them live alone and keep their innocence during all their life. Some of them are monogamous and live with the single partner. The others are not, and change sometimes their partners. There are also those who are in relationship both with men and women. When living as you like, its very important to have the freedom of choice. Often the lesbians dont want to imitate heterosexual style of relationship. It implies playing the male role by one of the partners, and the female by the other. The same thing happens in the sack. The best way to choose your own style is to understand what you prefer and what the preferences of your partner are. When you know how to get pleasure and how to bring it to your partner, all the problems disappear by themselves. There are no rules except those you made up for yourself!
9. What consequences might being lesbian cause?

People often react negatively on discovering that you arent natural. You can be even left by your friends and rejected by your family. Sometimes the lesbians are laid off and lose their children, being deprived of mother rights.In some countries lesbians can be punished by banishment or psychiatric therapy. In several countries there are no laws, which discriminate male homosexuals. But the situation with lesbians is quite different. Lesbians still confront with misunderstanding and lots of problems. Fortunately, many activists work on it, therefore the situation changes little by little. The survey shows that circa 85% of Europeans is tolerant to the homosexuality. Though the discrimination does exist, and its not easy to confess your homosexuality and live being a lesbian. Different und unusual persons always had many problems with society and suffered much. But someday the lesbians will live easy and free. And you can be the one who take part in this fight for lesbians rights!
10. How do the lesbians fight against being pressed?

We believe, that every woman has the right to use her body as she likes. She also has the right to love and to be loved. These rights were taken off by men, who ruled the states, dominated at home and even in family bed. We need to fight with the laws and institutions which cut off the female liberty and freedom of choice. Female discrimination as well as the lesbian one is the result of male domination in all these fields. The feminism should also deal with the problems of heterosexual pressing. If women are afraid to talk about it openly, nothing will change. Its very important for the lesbians to be together, because only together we are more powerful and can achieve good results. While communicating, talking about our feelings, successes, work and problems we feel closer to each other. Remember, that there are millions of lesbians all over the world and together we can resolve everything!

Positions for Lesbian Sex

Positions for Lesbian Sex

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The positions available for two girls to have sex are not unlike those used by a mixed couple, with a couple of notable exceptions. If the two are going to be using strap-ons, then just about any position available to a heterosexual couple is available to them (See the sections for